Best children’s bedtime idea yet!

Time for another great product review – Twilight Turtle (other animals available) from Cloud B. Interestingly enough, I came upon this while shopping for nursery decorations for my new little one who is due to arrive in April. We’re making sure to do everything we can to avoid jealousy issues with my son, who will be about 2 1/2 when the baby arrives, and since he LOVES stars, we thought we should get him one as well. We gave it to him for Christmas, but we didn’t actually put it in his room until we took his Christmas decorations down this past weekend. We figured he wouldn’t get the full effect with the Christmas tree lights.

WOW! First of all, he was immediately in awe. He is in love with it. He points out the stars and the moon (you can change the projection color as well.) It projects multiple constellations, and has a little storybook and map that go along with it so you can teach them about it. After his bath when he’s getting his jammies on all we hear is “stars, stars, need stars”. He hasn’t fussed about going to bed even once since he got it, and he really is sleeping peacefully. It has a timer which makes it go off after about 45 minutes. He woke up once after it had gone off and said “Mommy, stars!” I turned it back on for him and he was contently back off to sleep, never so easy! I love this product and I highly recommend it – certainly makes for peaceful sleeping in our house!

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Cyber-stalkers and bullies beware…

So, have I mentioned that I have a cyber stalker? Well, she’s really a total stalker, in fact when we lived in California she used to sneak up to our house at night and sit outside our bedroom window to try to hear conversations, etc. VERY scary. She is, obviously, mentally unstable and was one of the reasons that my husband and I decided to move to Colorado. Now, since she’s 1,000 miles away and can’t stalk me physically, she’s attempting to stalk me in the cyber world.

The truth of the matter is that she is a woman scorned, and we all know how ugly that can get…hell hath no fury, right? My husband chose me over her and she just can’t seem to let go of it. She lives in the past, constantly talking about life and circumstances as they were a long time ago. She has threatened both myself and my son, to the point where I’ve had to file reports with both the police department in the city where she lives as well as the Denver PD. She twists reality to make people believe that she is an innocent victim, as I’m sure her friends do, though true reality and the “reality” she has created in her mind are vastly different. Honestly, I feel I should pity her more than anything else, but her continual threats get in the way of that.

I’m sharing this in the hopes of being able to help anyone else out there who has encountered similar issues. My husband and I have been going to marriage counseling for the past couple of months, which as a side note, I highly recommend even if your marriage/relationship only has minor issues (though ours had some major ones). We have both really been able to open up, be honest, own our mistakes on both sides and it has completely transformed our relationship – it’s never been so good. That aside, the counselor was the one who suggested that I report this stalker’s actions. As it turns out, she had been spreading lies about me online, actually using my name, and sort of “rallying” her online connections against me – even giving out my personal information to people who were making public, physical threats online.

What I have found out is that these actions have lead to some serious crimes in the past, and law enforcement is now taking these types of threats VERY seriously. So if you have someone who is attacking you, spreading lies (and remember, they have to use your name or other personal identifying information for the police to consider this valid), or bullying or making threats – DO NOT sit by and ignore it. People who do this are the very ones you read about in the paper or hear about in the news. They are dangerous, and law enforcement is very invested in stopping this type of crime. Report it, make sure you keep hard copies and document everything. If you have children especially, you have a responsibility to protect them.

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Who says nursing bras have to be boring?

If you’re pregnant, going to be nursing and love pretty, sexy lingerie like I do, then this is the site for you. It’s called You! Lingerie and they have some great stuff. Let’s just say, my husband loves it as well. It’s such a nice change from the boring standard pregnancy and nursing bras. My favorite is the Rumi Noir, and it looks and fits great and it’s really not to pricey. So, treat yourself, you’re worth it!

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Pregnancy after the age of 40

Yes, at 41 years old I’m about to enter my 7th month of pregnancy. Some people seem to think that’s really old to be having a child and in fact one person I even heard call it a geriatric pregnancy, however my doctor and the perinatologist I’m seeing both say that’s nothing, they frequently see much older. I will say that I certainly don’t feel 41 and according to most people, I don’t look it either. The biggest risk with AMA (advanced maternal age) pregnancies is birth defects. Trisomy 13/18 and 21 (down’s syndrome) are much more common over the age of 40. I refused any invasive testing because we wouldn’t terminate regardless of the results, but I’m excited to say that the NT scan, all bloodwork and a very in depth Level II ultrasound all indicate that this baby is growing perfectly and is most likely very healthy.

I belong to an online forum for fertility and pregnancy, I have since prior to my first pregnancy, which I ended up miscarrying back in 2007. I actually had 3 miscarriages prior to having my son in 2008. Those miscarriages helped me to understand what people meant when they say you can’t understand how something feels until you’ve been through it. Family and friends want and try to be helpful – but comments such as “you can always try again”, or “there was something wrong with the baby and this was God’s way of taking care of it” really just make things worse, not better. Then of course there was even someone who doesn’t like me (understatement) who actually had the nerve to say she was glad that I miscarried the baby, that I got what I deserved and that I didn’t deserve to have a family at all. (Yes, this is the cancer I referred to in an earlier post.) Obviously, I would just try to ignore comments such as that – especially coming from someone who was very unbalanced – so unbalanced in fact that she tried to convince her daughter (who was legal, but just barely) to sleep with the man she was dating just to try to bribe him to stay with her – not exactly a decent role model for a parent. Regardless, I just wanted to crawl into a hole and wakeup to find it was all a bad dream and I had my little girl back. Yes, we had testing done afterward and found out that it was a little girl I lost due to Trisomy 23, which is incompatible with life.

My husband and I had been having a lot of problems in our marriage and to be honest, even though I definitely wanted another child, I was a little surprised when he brought it up this past Spring and said that he was ready to start trying again. We tried for about 3 months beginning around April, but nothing. My husband even requested that I try taking Clomid again to assist with fertility, even though it pretty much makes me a crazy person while I’m on it. At the end of June, when I still hadn’t gotten pregnant, we started to talk about that fact that I might just be too old, and we decided to take a break and if it happened, it happened. Lo and behold, the very next cycle I was pregnant, without trying at all. We found out the beginning of August, about a week before I left on a trip back to California to see my Grandmother who was dying of cancer. I left the positive pregnancy test on a big red note on his nightstand so that he’d see it when he got home from work – it said: Guess What? He was over the moon excited. We decided that I would go ahead and tell my family while I was in California so that I would be able to tell my grandmother before she died, but aside from that we wouldn’t tell anyone else until time for the NT scan.

Overall, other than being a bit more tired that I was with my first pregnancy, I really haven’t noticed any difference with this pregnancy. My blood pressure is good, I had actually lost quite a bit of weight prior to getting pregnant, so I weigh less with this one than I did with my first. No morning sickness or anything. I will have my glucose testing in a couple of weeks, and I’m hopeful all will be fine there as well. Don’t let people tell you that pregnancy after 40 has to be more difficult or dangerous – if you’re healthy, it really doesn’t.

I share all of this to give hope to those 35 or 40+ women out there who are ttc but who may be having a difficult time. In the end, both of my children have been conceived without any medical assistance whatsoever – so it is possible, don’t give up hope. BUT, do try to relax – both of my successful (so far) pregnancies happened after I STOPPED ttc, and just let things happen as they would. I really do think that stress and trying too hard to conceive can actually prevent it from happening.

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One thing the Lakers will never be…drama free

I may no longer live in LA, but I am fairly certain I’ll be a die hard Lakers fan until the day I die. That being said, as someone who generally prefers to limit the drama in her life, it’s interesting that my sports teams tend to be among the most drama-filled in their respective sports. Just look at the Lakers. Big game against the Spurs tonight – but who will show up? I swear sometimes that the Lakers players have cloned themselves and we just never know which team we’re going to get – the real thing, or the ‘can’t make an easy shot, get no rebounds completely forgot how to play defense’ clones that sometimes show up – oh, let’s say on Christmas Day for example!

I have a friend who lives in LA and called me on his way to work the Monday after Christmas. He takes the train into downtown and he said that the stop for Staples Center “Chick Hearn Station” was closed that day because a HazMat team was still there trying to clean up the $h^! the Lakers had left all over the place on Saturday – and isn’t it the truth?! What the hell was that?

I honestly wonder sometimes if on some level, the Lakers don’t do this on purpose. I mean, seriously. We know they’re better than that, and so do they, so really – just too much spiked egg nog that day or were they just po’d because they were being forced to work on Christmas Day yet again (not that I blame them for that). Let’s hope they actually show up tonight. Am I worried about them going all the way this year – no, I’m not – because this is what the Lakers have done every year, even their Championship seasons. They tank important games, sometimes quite a few at a time, and everyone gets down on them then they suddenly show up again. It’s quite a ride….here we go!

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Great gift for 2 – 4 year old!

So, my plan is to share any tidbits of wisdom that I think people might be able to use. In doing so, I intend to share products that I find are great for my family and/or kids. To start with, my son (who is now 27 months old) got this roller coaster for Christmas. Now, it’s only been a few days, but so far it’s a big hit. It can be used indoors as long as you have the room (thankfully, with snowy winters here, we do) and he gets a kick out of it. It’s not good for hours of play every day or anything, but it certainly entertains him for a little while each day, at least so far, and he’s having a great time! The product can be found here Step 2 Up & Down Roller Coaster. You can find it all over the place, but the best deal I found was about $88 with free shipping. Great fun for the 2 – 4 year old range.

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A blog…really?

Yes, I’ve had this blog for close to a year now but I’ve never really done anything with it. Well, I guess it’s about that time. It’s been a very challenging year, but as 2010 draws to a close I think it’s time that I do a little sharing and in some cases – pay it forward to those out there who have helped me get through some tough times.

It’s the last Monday of the year and I’m so glad it is. I can’t say that 2010 has been a good year, but I do know it could have been a lot worse. The dreadful details of why this year has been such a struggle are sure to come out eventually, but for now let’s suffice to say that my husband discovered that he had an addiction problem this year, and though he brought it to me voluntarily, and has been great about working through it since he discovered it, it’s been challenging for all of us.

The one good thing was that while in counseling dealing with this, he was also able to eliminate what one might call a “cancer” from our life. It is amazing how some people, by their very existence, seem to be like kryptonite to happiness. Homewreckers beware – karma will always bite back. I’d like to feel sorry for this woman who has tried desperately to break up our marriage for nearly 5 years now, but that would be like feeling sorry for Hitler. She knew what she was doing, didn’t care who she hurt and was actually foolish enough to believe she could win the war.

In any case, as 2011 nears I am glad to be free of that cancer in our lives. Things are going really well right now and I can only hope and pray that they get better from here.

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